A New Take on Feminine Voice Therapy from a Speech-Language Pathologist (SLP)
Updated: Aug 14
I don't think you need to change your voice. Everyone brings their unique communication style to the world. There isn't one inherently better way of speaking. I say this as someone whose entire career relies on helping others change their communication. However, I believe many people want to change their voice and speech for good reasons. So, I help them. My approach has shifted over the years. Now, I focus on being more person-centered, avoiding putting people in boxes. Here are some ways I support individuals in finding their feminine voice.
Listen & Learn
Instead of making assumptions, I ask my clients to take the lead with their goals. What is their priority? Is it passing, feeling better, or wanting to sound a bit different? Do they want their pitch to go as high as possible? Are they interested in learning the traditional language rules established in our culture, or are they comfortable where they are? It isn't up to me to determine these things, and they can change over time. My job is to ensure we are always on the same page. If something has been working, but my client decides to focus on something else, then I follow suit.
Ditch the App
Using a pitch app in sessions is common, as pitch stabilization is often a goal. However, there are many cases where it works better to avoid staring at a screen and tracking live Hz levels. This can be distracting or disheartening. Sometimes, looking away and tuning into your body is best. This approach aligns with our ultimate goal: feeling comfortable in our voices. It can help when the Hz target is a range or a perceived sound, rather than saying, "Try to hit and maintain this one number."
Add Emotion
This area of our field is relatively new. While there are continuing education courses on the topic, SLPs can get stuck in a certain mindset. We are trained to assess and treat disorders, but finding your feminine (or masculine) voice is not a disorder. Therefore, it requires a different approach. Instead of teaching one way of communicating, I encourage my clients to experiment with more than just their conversational voice in the office. We explore emotions like anger, confusion, hesitation, confidence, softness, and loudness. We all need to be able to yell across the street or express excitement or hurt with our new voices.
The Importance of Practice
Finding your voice is not just about the sessions we have together. It's about practice. I encourage my clients to use their voices in real-life situations. Whether it's ordering coffee, chatting with friends, or speaking in public, every opportunity is a chance to practice. The more you use your voice, the more comfortable you will become. Remember, practice makes progress!
Building Confidence
Confidence plays a crucial role in voice therapy. Many individuals struggle with self-doubt when it comes to their voice. I work with my clients to build their confidence through positive reinforcement and supportive feedback. We celebrate small victories together. Each step forward is a reason to feel proud.
Embracing Your Unique Voice
It's essential to embrace your unique voice. Everyone's voice is different, and that's what makes us special. I help my clients understand that their voice is a part of their identity. It's okay to have a voice that doesn't fit societal norms. Embracing your voice is a powerful step toward self-acceptance.
Finding Community
Connecting with others who are on a similar journey can be incredibly beneficial. I encourage my clients to seek out community support. Whether through online forums, local groups, or workshops, finding others who understand your experience can provide encouragement and motivation. You are not alone in this journey!
Conclusion
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